The Blow Job Obsession

So, a while back, when my blog was brand new I wrote a post about blow jobs titled Sex in the Early Stages of Dating, the Blowjob First Rule.  While this post has brought me a large number of voracious  onlookers it is actually rather disappointing to see that it is my top article by far each day.  I strive to write interesting and unique articles that discuss real issues in the dating world.  My goal with this blog was to appeal to the masses, both men and women, and touch upon issues that everyone can relate to with regards to dating.  I wanted to talk about everything from love and romance to drunken one night stands because these things are talked about and lived each day.  I wanted to write about topics that people could relate to and would want to comment on and instead I feel like the sexual aspects of my blog have become the focus when that was never my intention. Continue reading

Hooked on a Feeling…

Oh dating, why do you have to be so complicated?!  I have a friend who currently has gone on a few dates with a guy who has literally done everything right.  He pays, he’s respectful, he makes his intentions known, and he is mature enough and looking for something serious–just what she could ask for.  The only problem is, she isn’t sexually attracted to him.  To make things more complicated she recently met and hooked up with a guy she is very sexually attracted to but who is all wrong for her to date.  He is much younger, has never really been in an adult relationship, and likely will not date her.  His friend is a player and he likely will play my friend too but she still wants to give things a try.  What is it with us women that we get ourselves into these situations? Continue reading

The Dating Game

We’ve all been there.  Sitting by the phone waiting for a call, or as I suppose these days, a text.  Hoping for some inkling from our new beau that he cares or is thinking of us.  Dating can be fun but it is also very nerve wracking and not fit for the impatient.  Sure it is entertaining to go out with different people, have a nice meal and some good conversations, and get to know people to see if there is a connection, but it gets old fast.  What’s not so enjoyable about the dating world, however, is when you finally meet someone you like and there is all that time spent waiting.  Waiting for the phone to ring, for a text to come, to find out if you are exclusive, for sex, for the discovery of the unknown about each other.  It is why I prefer relationships to dating, the comfort level that you attain when with someone after a longer period of time is what I crave, not the anxiety riddled world of fear and rejection that is dating. Continue reading

Topics in Dating

So I’ve been scouring the internet on my downtime at work in hopes of finding some salacious topic to pique my readers’ interests and actually am somewhat surprised and dissappointed at what comes up when I Google dating.  I placed topics in dating into Google, hoping there would be a list of topics I could write about–things that are of interest to the masses regarding dating.  Instead I find a myriad of articles pertaining to what to discuss and not discuss on a first date.  I probe these articles, now curious as to what the self-help gurus of the web have to say about what’s acceptable and unacceptable fodder for an initial date.  The findings are actually quite interesting. Continue reading

Casual Sex Part Deux

I feel like I’ve written about this before but it’s a topic that comes to my mind again–whether or not sex really can be casual.  I have always been notorious for falling for guys that I sleep with regardless of the quality of the sex, length of time knowing the person, and my attraction to the person.  I definitely would not say I fall in love–that is reserved for special circumstances but I tend to become enamored with the person and want more than just that physical contact–I want hearts and flowers as EL James would say.  I know that sex and love and relationships are all separate entities, especially for guys but am I so crazy for wanting something more than a hook up?  I think my unconscious decision to want more with these men stems from some underlying sense of guilt I have for sleeping with a guy who hasn’t wined and dined me much or at all yet.  It is this guilt that I am annoyed with.  I shouldn’t feel ashamed of engaging in consensual safe sex but for some reason I do.  Continue reading

The Amorous Commit-a-Phobe

While on a recent lunch date with my bff and her sister, I stumbled into an interesting conversation that both surprised and enlightened me.  This friend was telling us a funny old story that involved a boy whom was in love with her but wasn’t interested in dating her or in a relationship.  It was not the humorous tale involving inebriation and vomiting that shocked me but rather the revelation that there is someone else out there who experienced this type of dater–or non-dater rather–The Amorous Commit-a-phobe.  I know that seems like an oxymoron, but yet they do exist and I finally realize that perhaps my crazy dating life in which I feel so scattered and alone is not so uncommon after all. Continue reading

Kim Kardashian’s L’Uomo Magazine Beauty

I will never fully understand the world’s fascination withe the Kardashian’s yet there is something about Kim and her family that the media and Joe Schmo Americans love.  Sure she’s got a nice curvy figure but there are tons of celebrities out there who are hot as hell AND talented–why not become obsessed with them?  Perhaps her sex tape has some allure to men, like a classy porn star if there is such a thing.  Well, Kim chosen to cover the July/August 2012 of L’Uomo Vogue magazine and it in my opinion did not play to her strengths.  Continue reading

My Foray Into Online Dating

So recently I decided to venture into the online dating world since I have both a male and female friend who utilize the technological means of meeting someone and with some luck.  Neither of them has had a serious relationship come of their forays but none the less they have met members of the opposite sex and gone on dates–and that’s more than I can say I’ve done in the past few months (with the exception of one boy whom I met at a bar with his dad…long humorous story for another day).  Continue reading

Kim Kardashian Talks Kanye, Divorce, and Her Life with Today Show

So I still do not understand exactly how she is famous or why people care so much about her and her family but Kim Kardashian has been the talk of the town lately between her ongoing divorce, her rumored-to-be relationship with Kanye, and her recent flour bombing incident.  Well, this morning she paid a visit to the Today Show to talk about just those things…or at least get asked about them. Continue reading