Topics in Dating

So I’ve been scouring the internet on my downtime at work in hopes of finding some salacious topic to pique my readers’ interests and actually am somewhat surprised and dissappointed at what comes up when I Google dating.  I placed topics in dating into Google, hoping there would be a list of topics I could write about–things that are of interest to the masses regarding dating.  Instead I find a myriad of articles pertaining to what to discuss and not discuss on a first date.  I probe these articles, now curious as to what the self-help gurus of the web have to say about what’s acceptable and unacceptable fodder for an initial date.  The findings are actually quite interesting. Continue reading

When He Says I Love You But You Aren’t There Yet

Recently a friend of mine was in a sticky situation.  A guy she was casually seeing told her he loved her.  As most girls dream of this moment because they tend to fall first, she just wasn’t there yet and was unsure of what to do.  And what do you do??  Do you just say “Thank you?”  Do you smile and say nothing?  What is the proper sexiquette for hearing an “I love you” when you aren’t ready to return the sentiment. Continue reading

The Danger of Doubt

So after writing about dread the other day I began to ponder about it further and realized just how much it consumes so many people’s lives.  Friends often tell me that they are so happy with the people whom they are with that they are actually scared of it.  What has happened to us that we are so conditioned to being miserable that we have become afraid of being content and blissful?  We are so pessimistic and fearful in nature that we allow unfounded fears and misguided concerns rule our daily lives.  I am no exception of course and I too now know the torture that is dread.  And it’s true, while fear of being alone is bad, dread is just as as awful. Continue reading

Murphy’s Law Days

Have you ever had a day where from the moment you wake up in the morning until the minute you rest your head on your pillow at night, nothing seems to go your way?  You snooze your alarm too many times or sleep through it all together which leads you to hop in the shower 20 minutes late.  Your boss calls with an excessive amount of work before you even leave for the office and on the drive in you get stuck behind a car going 10 miles per hour for the full duration of your trip.  Finding a parking spot at the office lot takes longer than usual and by the time you get to work you are a half hour late, agitated, and on edge .  Your coworkers are pestering you with additional responsibilities and the phone rings off the hook with others in need of your services and/or shit hitting the fan that you have to clean up.  Everyone is in a bad mood, every sound bothers you, and the day grows worse.  Your boyfriend and you have a fight or maybe he dumps you.  You get held up at work past 5 o’clock and hit brutal traffic which results in you being late for your hair appointment.  You try to think positively and be relieved that work is over only to find out that your friend got in a car accident and totaled her vehicle.  Then the building where you are getting your trim goes on fire thus you are evacuated and made to wait in the cold while five fire trucks pull up to save the day.  However, you manage to make it home in one piece—stunned and irritated, but alive—and you pass out in your bed due to exhaustion from the day as well as fear that if you stay awake more misery will come your way.  This is what I call a Murphy’s Law Day.  Continue reading

In Love With the Idea: A Dangerous Delusion

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad, and don’t sit cryin’ over good times you’ve had. There’s a girl right next to you, and she’s just waitin’ for something to do.

And there’s a rose in the fisted glove and the eagle flies with the dove, and if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with.”

-Stephen Stills

I’ve been in the dating field for about a decade now and during that time I learned quite a bit about all the mistakes one can make when casually dating someone or seeing someone with the intent and hope of taking things to a more committed level.  One concept that repeatedly comes up in my life and my friends’ lives is falling in love with the idea of someone while believing you actually love that person. Continue reading

The Overly Accommodating Dater

Have you ever been in a situation where  you have a best friend, you hang out with him/her all the time and the two of you have so much fun and life is great, then all of that goes by the wayside  because he/she starts dating someone?  It has happened to most of us I’m sure so it is a well known fact that when taken too seriously relationships can ruin friendships.  There are catch phrases like “bros before hos” or “chicks before dicks” but these give the impression that relationships are bad thing to be avoided which is not the case.  Rather, life is a balancing act and it is important to make time for all the people who matter in your life not just the one who you are sleeping with. Continue reading

Playing the Field: The Multi-Dater

“You should know that you’re just a temporary fix
This is not rooted with you it don’t mean that much to me
You’re just a filler in the space that happened to be free
How dare you think you’d get away with trying to play me”

-Adele

So now that I have this blog I face two reactions from friends.  On the one hand, I have people who are interested in being blogged about who come to me with sexy, fascinating stories or great ideas.  On the other hand, there are the individuals who are afraid that I will blog about them so they are less communicative with me about their sex and dating lives.  With regards to the former, one friend recently shared a story that was of interest to me as it touched upon a pivotal dating topic–the multi-dater. Continue reading

Platonic Sleepovers: Friends of the Opposite Sex

In doing research for the blog, I polled friends of both sexes to get ideas for what to post next and to better understand what my target audience wants to hear about.  I recently talked with a guy friend of mine who had quite a lot to say about dating and relationships despite having claimed to care about neither.  He informed me of his 3 unwavering requirements for dating girls.  First, she has to be financially independent.  Secondly, you must never allow yourself to fall in love with every girl you date.  You can have sex with her and spend time with her, but don’t get too attached.  (Apparently guys tend to fall in love with girls easily which was shocking news to me.  Where are these men when I’m dating??). Continue reading