Hooked on a Feeling…

Oh dating, why do you have to be so complicated?!  I have a friend who currently has gone on a few dates with a guy who has literally done everything right.  He pays, he’s respectful, he makes his intentions known, and he is mature enough and looking for something serious–just what she could ask for.  The only problem is, she isn’t sexually attracted to him.  To make things more complicated she recently met and hooked up with a guy she is very sexually attracted to but who is all wrong for her to date.  He is much younger, has never really been in an adult relationship, and likely will not date her.  His friend is a player and he likely will play my friend too but she still wants to give things a try.  What is it with us women that we get ourselves into these situations? Continue reading

Guys Do It So I’m Gonna Do It Better: The Hookup

We’ve all done it or been a victim of it, the casual hookup.  You meet a guy or girl at a bar, go back to their place or bring them back to yours, and you have sex.  Sometimes it’s amazing, usually it’s awkward or one person is too drunk but regardless you experience a hookup.  While girls have hopes for further time together or potentially extending the hookup into a casual or romantic relationship, guys tend to have the mantra of “one and done” leaving the girl with some unresponded texts and a wounded ego.  Yet, why can’t girls do the same thing to guys. Continue reading

The Overly Accommodating Dater

Have you ever been in a situation where  you have a best friend, you hang out with him/her all the time and the two of you have so much fun and life is great, then all of that goes by the wayside  because he/she starts dating someone?  It has happened to most of us I’m sure so it is a well known fact that when taken too seriously relationships can ruin friendships.  There are catch phrases like “bros before hos” or “chicks before dicks” but these give the impression that relationships are bad thing to be avoided which is not the case.  Rather, life is a balancing act and it is important to make time for all the people who matter in your life not just the one who you are sleeping with. Continue reading

Can Sex Really Ever Be Casual

I find myself repeating like a broken tune
And I’m forever excusing your intentions
And I give in to my pretendings
Which forgive you each time
Without me knowing
They melt my heart to stone

And I hear your words that I made up
You say my name like there could be an us
I best tidy up my head I’m the only one in love
I’m the only one in love”

-Adele

Can sex really ever be casual?  Are we ever truly capable of reaching the ultimate physical level with a person and not feeling a thing beyond an orgasm?  If so, does this make us less humane or immoral?  Should we feel attached to someone we make that level of a connection with or is it acceptable for two people to use one another for sexual gratification and pleasure without intentions on either end of it ever going further?  What happens when one person falls in love? Continue reading

The Evolution of the Booty Call

“It’s a quarter after one,

I’m all alone and I need you now.

And I said I wouldn’t call,

But I’m a little drunk and I need you now.

And I don’t know how I can do without,

I just need you now.”

Lady Antebellum

We have all either been the victim or perpetrator of that late night phone call or text, full of desperation and desire—the booty call.  While there once was a time where sex really did happen strictly after marriage and the topic of sexuality was taboo, times have changed and phone calls with provocative solicitations are not only accepted, they are expected.  However, I would guess that late night drunk-dialing did not really become so prevalent until the rise in popularity of the cell phone.  Since I was a bit too young during the beeper/pager phase, I am merely guessing that people were paging their friends with benefits and significant others for late-night lovin’ even back then.  Yet, once cell phones became as ubiquitous as pens and the payphone went out like the dinosaurs, drunken hook-up attempts sky rocketed.  In more recent years, such pleading has required even less courage thanks to texting becoming so commonplace.  Now just a few taps of your thumb and a sex request is on its way and cannot be taken back. Continue reading